Three Fundamental Techniques

In Handling People

Dale Carnegie

1.         Don't criticize, condemn or complain

“If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive.”

2.       Reflection: As humans, we all should be thankful for everything we have, and not be upset because of the things we don’t have. To not criticize, condemn, or complain is really hard considering we humans have been doing it since small age and change is something hard. To not be able to do those three verbs is hard but doing it with practice and diligence it will pay off. To criticize someone is not only wrong but degrading because in doing that you’re judging some other individual. No one in this world is perfect and no one deserves to be judged. To condemn someone is also not nice because no one can be told what to do besides authority. To complain is also not a good thing because we don’t look at what God has gave us in general and to want more and more is a way to start complaining and  it shouldn’t be like that. Us as humans should be happy with what we have and conform ourselves with everything we have. The good thing is that we have a roof above our heads, a bed to lay our heads on, we’re not starving and we have many resources to keep on going and live life. To complain is something that can become a problem because it means you’re not happy with what you have been given and we shouldn’t complain because let alone we have a life, a soul, and we have something to be proud of. All in all, complaining condemning, and criticizing are not positive things and our lives should not dwell on negativity.

3.       “Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do.” – Benjamin Franklin

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5.       To apply this technique I am going to try to be more on the positive side, and be more gentle to people.

2. Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation

“The big secret in dealing with people.”

1.         Reflection: No one in the world likes being lied to or have someone be so unappreciative of what they do for them. To not be honest and be unappreciative is very rude and disrespectful towards others it is something that can be frowned upon by others especially when they have done something that can benefit you and that is going to help you. When it comes down to dealing with people, you have to come as a genuine, honest, and sincere person towards them because with those characteristics you can build a relationship and have some sort of friendship. When someone realizes that they are being appreciated and are given the truth and nothing but the truth it can make the other person trust you and have warm feelings towards you. Being honest and appreciative is the key to get to life because then others will want to work with you in a work setting and have your input because they know you aren’t lying or putting them in the state of fraud. Being appreciative to someone for something they have done for you can make the other person feel good because you like what they did for you and sometimes what others do for you for your sake come with sacrifice.

2.       “A smart manager will establish a culture of gratitude. Expand the appreciative attitude to suppliers, vendors, delivery people, and of course, customers.” Harvey Mackay

3.       To apply this technique I will start to appreciate everything everyone does for me and be more honest to others. I will come to people with the truth and not lies.

Technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.

“He who can do this has the whole world with him. He, who cannot walks a lonely way.”

1.         Reflection: Being a positive influence amongst others and wanting them to be ambitious and want is a positive skill someone can carry, In the course of the years a lot of people have been discouraged by problems they have and don’t want to continue to do what they have desired their entire life. Someone always needs that one person to push them and give them positive advice to just keep going and never give up on what they have worked so hard for in their entire life. Making someone eager for something means you’re doing your job because you’re pushing the other person to do better for the better good of their survival in the real world.  If you don’t want something you’ve got nothing and that’s the simple fact. If someone does not desire something or doesn’t have the ambition to do something than what is next? Being eager should be something everyone should want because the world is only getting so much difficult to survive in.  When you desire something it means you’ll go after it no matter the challenges and obstacles that may come your way. With hard work and someone to push you in the right direction anything can be achieved and conquered. To conquer means you’ve persevered and have worked hard, so to want someone to want something is something very influential and warm hearted because not a lot of people will want the better good for you because  are their competition.

2.       Quote: “Ambition is the path to success, persistence is the vehicle you arrive in.” – William Eardely IV

3.       To apply this new technique I will try and help others when they are feeling down and help them to achieve whatever they want when they are in the point in their life where they want to give up.

Final Reflection

The three fundamental techniques in handling people is something really influential to me in my life since it has been taught to me. It’s taught me to be nicer and wiser with people and to treat them like I want to be treated. The three techniques have also showed me that sometimes doing some things to other people is not nice and that we do need to apologize when we are doing wrong. The three techniques are definitely something I will show other people like my friends and family because it is three positive pathways to live life the right way instead of being mean and lying. The three fundamental techniques are something I will carry with me in my life and I will try hard to influence others to follow these techniques.