1.         Rule: Become genuinely interested in other people

“Do this and you will be welcome everywhere.”

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

“Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering.”

2.       Reflection: No one likes to have people that pretend to like them or want to be friends with them for the wrong reasons. No one likes to be lied to and be backstabbed by people they would consider close to them. Even now, today in the world everyone wants to have someone as a friend that is genuine, and that has nothing but the truth, and honesty to offer them. Being genuine is key to having successful relationships and friendships, no one likes to be lied to or be taken advantage of and it is something everyone should offer as a sign of respect to the other person, because it can mean that you’re taking the friendship or relationship seriously and you want to make it worthwhile. Being genuine overall can come in handy in the future over time because if you can prove to be genuine and trustworthy people are going to want to be partners with you business wise and will want to get something going for the benefit of them and yours. An example of being genuine is never lying and always being truthful to yourself and to others you would consider friends. Another example of being genuine is always being honest, respectful, and being responsible for yourself, and for the feelings of others. Overall being genuine should be applied to an everyday lifestyle because practice makes perfect and people will want to be around you and also will genuinely enjoy your company.

3.       Quote: “.The more one does and sees and feels, the more one is able to do, and the more genuine may be one's appreciation of fundamental things like home, and love, and understanding companionship.” Amelia Earhart

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5. I will apply this rule to my life when it comes time for me to make new friendships, when it comes to being honest to my parents about anything and everything, and i will also be genuine when it comes to big decision making moments that can impact my life and the life of others.

2. Rule 2: Smile

“Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”

“You don’t feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile.”

“It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in business, and is the countersign (witness or education) of friends.”

1.         Reflection: Smiling is the best way to approach someone, be a kind person, and the way to get everyone surrounding to you be happy with you. Always being nice and smiling can make you approachable by other people, and it is going to want them to be your partner and have some type of connection. I believe smiling can be a sign of positivity and happiness because if you’re smiling you’re in the right mood, and overall a positive person. On the other hand if you’re not smiling and being negative then that makes you unapproachable and no one is really going to be interested In talking top your or forming a relationship.  You can always tell when a person is having a good day or a bad day when they are smiling or being gentle, or when they are not smiling, and being rude to others for no reason. Overall smiling is a good character and it goes for everyone, it is something that should be practiced on an everyday basis because it can bring good feelings, and overall it can bring you positivity from other as well. Smiling is also a sign of respect, and kindness to others because who doesn’t like being smiled at from a stranger, a friend, or a family member. It is always amazing to cross paths with people like that because they are the type of people that will encourage you to do good, and always do everything in a positive manner. Overall, a smile can make someone’s day and brighten it up so it is essential to always smile and be a positive heart.

2.       Quote: “A warm smile is the universal language of kindness.” – William Arthur Ward

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4.        In order to master this I will always try to be positive smile to others and try to bring positive energy into their days. Everyone likes to be smiled every once in a while and it is the generous thing to do.

3. Rule 3: Remember Names

“A man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

“If you don’t remember names, you are headed for trouble.”

1. Reflection: Remembering names is a great way to start relationships and it can make someone feel important. Remembering names can come in handy in the long run of someone’s life when it comes to business, or anything else besides that. For example when you have an internship or something of that nature it is always good to say “Oh, Jimmy Hardship sent me, he’s the current CEO of the company I believe.” And this will make others feel good and important because you know their name and how to address them in a respectful manner. Remembering names can also help in school as well when it comes to homework or classwork. If you do not know peer’s names you won’t have any resources or anything to help you with any assignments and if you do you can always direct to them and talk to them by asking questions or what not. Remembering names is always beneficial because you won’t have to struggle to communicate with someone within the same room as you, and you won’t have to be asking people to tell you the name of the person you want to address. Remembering names is also something essential because no one wants be address by “Ay” “Hey You” and what not, everyone likes to be addressed by their name because it is respectful and can benefit someone in the long run.

2. Quote: “Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names.” – John F. Kennedy

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4. I will master this new rule by remembering people’s names even if their strangers and show them my respect. I will also address people by their proper name instead of addressing them with an “Ay” or “Hey”.

List

1. Repeating, Repeating, and Repeating their names

2. Comparing their names to something like an image

3. Spelling their names  out
4. Associate their names with things they like to do
5.Doing Mnemonic devices
6.  to help people remember your name give them tips or something they can rely on to memorize your name
7. Write their names down
8. Speak up and ask the person to tell you their names as many time as possible. 
9. Introduce people to other people and make them say their names 

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage other to talk about themselves.

“If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.”

“Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems.”

1.         Reflection: Someone in the world always wants to have someone that will listen to what they have to say and help them out in the time of need. Every individual wants to be heard, and be cared about by at least one other person or multiple, and it’s an act of kindness if you’re hearing someone out and being there for them. Being a good listener to someone can make them feel important, and that you care for them. No one likes to not be heard by someone else because then they are not venting or letting their stress out. Being listened to can also help someone get emotionally better, and can help someone become a better speaker when it comes to problems. No matter who the person is, if you do not know them personally or at all it is always good to encourage them to let out some things and not have it bother them or their mind because it can affect them mentally and emotionally. Encouraging someone to talk about their problems or whatever the case may be can always make them build confidence inside themselves and can give them the courage to contact someone to talk to about anything they want. It is always better to vent and to talk to someone because then you are not stressed, and you feel freer.

2.       Quote: “It is greed to do all the talking but not to want to listen at all.” – Democritus.

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4.        In order to master this I will listen more to people and help them out in whatever way I can. No one likes to be ignored or their voices to be heard so it is something I will work on. Talking to others, or having someone talk to me can really make a difference and can help build positivity. 

Rule: 4

“If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an alternative listener.”

5 Tips to being an attentive listener

1.         Step 1: Stay Focused: listen what they say and to be patient

2.        Step 2: Really Listen to not think about similar experience and what you should say next

3.       Step 3: Allow for periods of silence: wait till the other person speaks again.

4.       Step 4: From time to time repeat the other person’s words and repeat it back to them: Reassure that you are really listening and make them confident to talk.

5.        Step 5: Understand motions between words: When paraphrasing express feelings back to them, be prepared for long conversations, gain trust and people will want to spend time with you

Rule 5: Talk in terms of other’s man’s interest

“The royal rode to a man’s heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.”

1.         Reflection: When it comes to conversations and interacting with someone else, people do not like to talk about things that are not in their choice of interest. No one likes to talk about vague things that don’t matter to them or that do not make a difference in their lives. Everyone likes to talk about something that can really be life changing, and that it can impact them in a positive way. For example when it comes to business everyone likes to talk about subjects that can bring them money, and success not something that can downplay them and make them less successful, or having to lose something. When it comes to subjects, its better off if someone talks about something controversial and life changing, like world events, and what is really going on in today’s society. When people get together they like to talk about subjects that play a role in their lives not something that is irrelevant and won’t really make a difference. In the world no one likes to waste their time so it’s always wiser to speak on something that can actually make change. Overall, no individual likes talking about something ridiculous or whatever the case may be, sometimes folks do like to go off topic and talk about celebrity’s gossip or things of that nature, but in reality what good comes from that. Overall it is always good to talk about something that you and your company are both interested in.

2.       Quote: “The secret of happiness is this: let your interests be as wide as possible, and let your reactions to the things and persons that interest you be as far as possible friendly rather than hostile.” – Bertrand Russell.

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4.        To master this I will engage in a conversation and talk about things that are in my interest and in the interest of others around me. I will also try to think about topics that can impact not only my life but the life of my company.

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely

“The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.” – John Dewey

“Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic.”

1.         Reflection: To make someone feel important takes a lot depending on whether you know the person and what they have proved to be known for. Sometimes people hold grudges on other people because of what they did and if it hurt them or not. Things should not be like that because at the end of the day it affects both people and it can make a huge difference in someone’s life. When you make someone feel important it gives the other person good feelings, and it will also make the other person feel happy as well and positive. When you make someone feel important you make them feel wanted, like if you sincerely want to know about them and where they come from. It is also important to keep in mind that you need to treat people the way you want to be treated, and if its good then good things will happen. If it is bad then bad things will happen to you, and no one likes negative things to happen. When you make even a stranger feel important you build a friendship and maybe even a longtime partnership with strangers.

2.       Quote “Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is.” –Jim Morrison

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4.        I will apply this new rule by listening to others and overall making them feel important and wanted by me because it is the nicest thing to do. Showing that you care and that you really want to be there for others makes other people act the same way towards you, and good feelings in your heart.

Reflection: “Six ways to make people like you.”

The six ways to make people like you are really influential, and very easy to follow, that I think everyone should follow them honestly and genuinely. The six ways have really made me put things into perspective and do things the right way to not only make me feel good, but also the other person. When you do something right and out of kindness to other people it really makes the other individuals feel good, and make them want to confide in you. When you follow the six ways it is also a way to build relationships with other people and make friends. These six ways are filled with positivity, and overall kindness and it’s a message that can be decoded by others to find the greatness these six ways offers to someone. I genuinely feel like the six ways have made me become a better person and more positive towards others despite the circumstances that we are in its always better to do everything out of heart. One of the six ways is to show someone that you’re there to listen and it’s really helped me to go out of my way and help others in time of need. The six ways should be followed by other individuals and we should advocate for the six ways because a lot of positive things can be done by following the six ways to make people like you. All in all, I think the creation of the six ways to make people like you is very influential and filled with positivity that everyone should follow these guidelines to enjoy a life filled with happiness and overall positivity.

Personal Development Attribute

Ways to Be

9 Ways to be Happy and Make something out of your life

Gordon B. Hinckley

·        1. Be Grateful

·        Reflection: Being grateful is something everyone should be at this point in their lives. People should be grateful for having a home, food, and clothes and just in general everything they have in their lives. Even for the smallest things you should be grateful for because other people in the world are dying over food, they don’t have clothes, shelter, or let alone any basic necessities to survive.

·        Quote:”I feel I am lucky. I am grateful for this life that God has given me. I am happy, as I am getting to do work that I want to do and enjoy doing it.” –Sonam Kapoor 

2. Smart

Reflection: Being smart is something that anyone can achieve if you put your mind to it and if you want to fill yourself with knowledge. Being smart to me is a practice of trial and error, out of those times you failed you learn something out of it and you can apply it to whatever you have to do from there. Being smart is also a privilege because overall having an education is a privilege because other kids around the world don’t ever get the opportunity to even get educated and it is something to definitely be thankful for. Being smart isn’t something hard for anyone to achieve it all has to do with how much effort you put in your education, and how much you care about yourself. Overall, being smart anyone can be if you put effort into your education and if you care about yourself enough to have the ability to learn and be filled with knowledge.

Quote:  “A smart man makes a mistake, learns from it, and never makes that mistake again. But a wise man finds a smart man and learns from him how to avoid the mistake altogether. – Roy H. Williams

3.       Be Involved in Good Works

1.         Reflection: To be involved in good works is not only good for the people, but also good for you. Doing good work, for instance, community work, beautification of a city, or something like that can benefit the community as a whole and you because you’ll feel good for helping and participating in a healthy positive way.  Doing good work can also give people a good idea of you because actions speak louder than words in many occasions. Involving yourself in good works can help shape your state of mind into being more generous, thoughtful, and caring of the community and overall the planet.  All in all doing good work, is really beneficial and not a waste of time.

2.       Quote: “You only do good work when you're taking risks and pushing yourself.” – Sally Hawkins.

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4. Be clean

1. Reflection: Being clean overall should play a huge roll in someone’s life daily. Being clean and taking care of your hygiene can really speak great about you. Being clean can mean that you don’t like being dirty, smelly, and overall disorganized with your cleanliness. Being clean is something everyone should take as a privilege because other kids in other countries don’t ever get the opportunity to live in a well cleaned environment like we all do. Being clean can also say a lot about a person and how well they take care of their personal space and their hygiene. Hygiene overall, is very important because no one likes someone that smells like sweat and what not. Not being clean is disgusting and no one likes to be around a dirty person. All in all being clean says a lot of a person and it is not that hard to follow.

2. Quote: “Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world.” – George Bernard Shaw

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5. Be true

1. Reflection: Being true to yourself and overall everyone is really a key concept to being successful in life. Being truthful to others is important because no one likes being lied to and to be deceived it is offensive overall in any situation and lying is never the answer to fix anything or overcome something. If you’re always telling the truth then people will want to work with you and be your partner in any business decisions or overall just a normal friendship. I know how it feels to be lied to and it is not fun, it’s actually really disappointing to have someone lie to your face and not tell you the truth. Since I do not like being lied to I do not do it to others because I know I do not like it so it is not worth it to do it to someone else and overall hurting their feelings because it is not worth it. Lying is never the answer to any situation because  you’re only digging a hole you cannot get yourself out of, and it is simply not worth any of your time to lie. All in all, always being truthful and being honest can get you to the right places, but if you’re lying and being dishonest then there are repercussions to pay for.

2. Quote: “Be true to yourself, help others, make each day your masterpiece, make friendship a fine art, drink deeply from good books - especially the Bible, build a shelter against a rainy day, give thanks for your blessings and pray for guidance every day.” – John Wooden

6. Be Positive

1. Reflection: Being positive is always key to being successful and being a good person in life. If you look at the bright side of things then you’ll realize that whatever you did was good and that more good will come to you. Being positive overall is beneficial because people are going to want to work with you and become partners with you in anything if you have the right attitude towards things. Being positive can also be something influential to people not only because it is a great thing, but they’re going to want to aspire to be like you and will want to be around you for a while.  To add on, being positive can bring so much happiness to life, and it can make you feel good of things because you’re not thinking negative and being a bad person. In conclusion being positive is key to a better life, and I think it should be practiced every day to take it in as something new. 

                 There is plenty of examples out there that show how to be positive. For instance, you can always go to work, school, or any place with a huge smile on your face and being positive around people. You can also do things with positiveness and  thinking to yourself that you can do it and to push yourself. In addition , another example of being positive is showing people you care and being there for others in time of need.  Another perfect example of being positive is looking at the bright things of situations and thinking of a positive way to resolve that issue.  All in all being positive should be something everyone  should be doing and incorporating it into their daily lives. 

2. Quote: “Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive result.” – Willie Nelson

7. Be Humble

1. Reflection: Being humble is something everyone should do because we all start from a really low part of our lives. Being humble shows just how much you can stay real to your roots and where you came from either if it’s from poverty or you being rich. Always giving back to others is a way of you being humble because you remember about others and you’re giving some of your input. Being humble means that even though you’re successful and have everything that you wanted, that you still haven’t forgotten about the people that pushed you to be successful and to be the person you have become.  In addition, being humble means that even though you have all the success you could of always wanted, that you haven’t forgot of where you came from and how much you struggled to be at the point that you are in your life.

Being humble to people can mean many different things, but in reality it means staying true to yourself and not forgetting where you came from overall. For example, if someone becomes a millionaire, they have everything they wanted growing up, and are successful in their profession yet they still manage to face the hardships they faced, and visit the places where the people that have nothing influenced them to become someone in life that’s being humble because you will never forget where you came from.  Overall even if you get to be successful, you should always remember about where you came from, and how you struggled to be at that very moment in your life.

2. Quote: “Success comes to those who dedicate everything to their passion in life. To be successful, it is also very important to be humble and never let fame or money travel to your head.” – A.R. Rahman 

8. Be Still

1. Reflection: I’m not really sure what it means to be still, but I assume it means to be at a stable point in your life, and having everything together. Having everything together and being prepared, means being responsible, and caring about yourself. No one in the world is going to care about you like you do for yourself. Being at a stable place means that everything you worked for has fallen into place and that you got it, you’ve made it, and now you have everything you hoped of and dreamed of. Having everything together also means that you busted your butt of, never had no for an answer and persevered in any situation that came your way. Being still to me is being positive, having everything together, and being true to yourself.

Being still to me is someone being ambitious, and wanting more than they know they can achieve. It also means to always listen to the people that are guiding you on the right path and proving to them that you can and will do whatever you have to do to be successful. Being still can also mean having a prerogative to yourself in becoming a successful person, and showing everyone that you have made it regardless the obstacles you had to face. Being still to me also means being obedient, and listening to anything someone is telling you to do. Sometimes listening can lead someone in the right path and it can mean nothing but success.

2. Quote: “In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.” – Deepak Chopra 

9. Be Prayerful

1. Reflection: This is going to be a short reflection to have in mind that prayer is everything, and it should be an essential key to life, Without prayer life is nothing.

2. Quote: “God, our Creator, has stored within our minds and personalities, great potential strength and ability. Prayer helps us tap and develop these powers.”

Reflection

The 9 different ways to be happier and make something out of your life are for sure something that is very influential, and a sort of inspiration. The 9 ways are nothing but positive ways to just lead your life in the right path away from evil and any negative thing that life can bombard you with. The 9 ways are list of words that can mentor someone into becoming a better person in life and to better themselves as they grow as individual. Always being positive and being happy can be a good thing because many good things come with living the 9 different ways of being happier and making something out of your life. The 9 ways can also be taken as a list that someone should practice to better them and be in the righteous path. If In a way this list is also contradicting because in order to have good you have to have bad and in order to have bad you have to have good. It can be both vise-versa, but if applied correctly there will be a course of change in someone’s life. The 9 ways of living a happier life are very influential for many reasons. One is because people are probably applying it to their everyday life skills, and developing from it. Another reason is because this can be a worldwide thing and it can influence people in the right and positive direction. 

Caring

1.         Definition: displaying kindness and concern for others.

2.       Quote “Life comes from physical survival; but the good life comes from what we care about.” – Rollo May

3.       Reflection: Always caring about the right things can make you successful and make you go far in life. If you care enough about yourself, your education, and just in general your life, big things can come your way filled with positive energy. If you care about the wrong things then you’re focusing on the wrong things that will not benefit you in the long run. It is always important to let go of the less irrelevant things and to focus on something bigger that can impact your future. All in all it is important to care but about the important things that will help you in life, and the not so much important things that will not benefit you in your future in any way shape or form.